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I'm not in Japan right now, but I'm right next door in China, which is pretty close, hehe.  I've been in China on and off for the last year and a half. I'm not a big fan of China, and everyone I know in Japan says they really enjoy their life there. A lot of foreigners say that Japan is ultra-modern, very clean, and open-minded about some things just like in the west. Living in China for the last year and a half has been a constant battle against stupidity and pollution.
My original plan was to go to Japan at the end of August to travel around the Kansai region. I was going to take the two day ferry from Shanghai to Osaka. I don't like airplanes, but I absolutely love trains and boats. While I was in Japan, if I would have gone, then I was planning to do some serious looking around at working and living there. Alas, things didn't turn out as planned. I ended up spending a bunch of money to renew my visa for China for another year. Currently, I'm in the north-east part of China in Dalian, which use to be a city of Japan.
What I realize though lately is that it's not just work that will make me happy. What would really make me happy is being in a long-term relationship, living with someone, and working on making a family. I'm turning 27 in two months. Therefore, I think that even if I have a baby with someone next year, then I'll be 48 when my son / daughter is starting university. I still want to be young enough to play sports with my kids and be active with them.
I don't have any family back in the U.S. My parents divorced when I was 11. My dad disappeared into his own little world. My mom turned abusive (physically and mentally) towards me. I was an only child. My mom basically drove my dad away. It's a long story, I suppose. After a few years of abuse under my mom, the state got involved, and they put me in foster care. To this day, I still don't have any family in the U.S or anywhere. That's one reason why for years I've had it on my mind to find my soulmate and make my own happy family. There's no way to change the past. It's only possible to change myself and make life better now and in the future. I need to be loved and I have a lot of love to give. I'm by no means "rich", but I just imagine having a life dedicated to that one special girl and sharing everything together. I'm not an old man. I'm a young man who's growing older.
I especially think it'd be awesome to find my soulmate in Japan. The simple reason is not as romantic as other parts of this post, but it's true. I was in a serious relationship with a girl before when I lived in Thailand. We both wanted to go back to the U.S together. However, we hit a roadblock, because it's just so difficult for most Thais to be able to get a visa for the U.S. However, this is not a problem with Japanese nationals. Ideally, I imagine us spending half of our life in Japan, and the other half of our life together in the U.S.
Although, I've never been to Japan before, but I've still been fascinated by all things Japanese, as far back as I can remember. I think it's a very good thing to spend your life with someone who's different than yourself. Similarities are great. It's nice being able to connect and understand it's easily. It's the challenges though, which make our love strong. In my mind, the two most important things that a "real love" needs are trust and commitment. If we both trust each other and if we're both committed to each other as long as we treat each other kind, understanding, and lovingly, then I really can't fathom why we couldn't be together forever.
Prior to coming back to Asia in April, 2006, I was living in beautiful Portland, Oregon, USA. And from 2003 until 2005 I had been living in Thailand where I taught at a variety of schools and private English lessons, and even did some web (Internet) development work. I still like to call Portland, Oregon "home" even though I'm currently looking for a new home with someone special. Here are some photos of Portland for people who haven't been there before:
http://www.compiere.org/about/Portland 300.jpg
http://www.teridanielsbooks.com/States /Oregon/Portland, Oregon, downtown,% 20trolley.jpg
http://www.wrightsrealm.com/albums/Por tland0/IMG_1638.sized.jpg
I think that Portland probably looks similar to some parts of Japan.
My reflection in the mirror shows that I'm not getting any younger. I'm posting this because I'm looking for the "right one" right now. When I think of my dream girl these are some traits that I think in my mind: Smart, Funny, Creative, Easy-going, Open-minded, Family-minded, Loving, Big Hearted, and Understanding. I have a one year visa for China which I just got, and that can be renewed again. I'm going to be staying here. I'm not planning to go anywhere. Unlike some other foreign men who come to Asia, I'm totally serious and committed to a long-term relationship, and having a family together right now and being together forever.
I want to have a family now with one really super cool girl. Call me a "dreamer", but I'd like us to be like soulmates who share everything together including our joys, our troubles, our thoughts, our feelings, our love, travels, and mostly importantly a stable life together.
My goal is not to find someone who loves me because of money or superficial reasons. By no means am I rich. I need someone who is prepared to have a family together now or in the near future, and this relationship needs to be based on real love. I just want to have our "own life" together. Why is this so difficult to find? I'm not sure how I could make you learn everything about me online or decide to spend life together. Love is about sharing something special; a deep connection.
Frankly, I'm tired of relationships that don't go anywhere. I no longer see the point of dating someone for six months just to see the relationship disappear. I'm looking for the long-term. I want to have a baby now or in the near-future. I don't want to have a baby in a "few years". I'm ready to have a family with the right person right now.
If you are mature enough, caring enough, with a big heart and ready to have a family now in life and spend life together. Then I might be the one for you (I hope). I'm lonely. I don't have any brothers or sisters. I don't know my family, because my parents divorced when I was young, there were problems at home, and I ended up spending the rest of my childhood growing up in foster care. Since then my friends have been like family. However, I'm ready to make a loving / caring family of my own with the right one.
I'm looking for someone who's interested in me as a person.
Read more about my story here if you'd like to learn more about my history: http://www.myspace.com/soulajax
I'm very open and honest. I'm a good person with a good heart deep down.
Here are some things that I absolutely love:
* Travel - See my resume here: http://shaun.loveacrossborders.com/
* Poetry - I've published three books on my own. You can read them if you like...
EIAM: http://www.scribd.com/doc/2875/Shaun-Apple-Eons-In-A-Moment-2007
TTOSJ: http://www.scribd.com/doc/2896/The-Thirteen-Original-Sins-JadedByShaun-Jason-Apple2007
SIAM: http://www.scribd.com/doc/275812/2008-Shaun-Apple-Smithereens-In-A-Moment-SIAM-Book-of-experimental-poetry-and-photography
(newest book, just finished a few weeks ago)
My community based poetry web site: http://www.loveacrossborders.com
* Politics - You name it. I love discussing any kind of politics. I'm generally moderate to very liberal leaning depending on the issue. I support gay marriage, drug legalization, and independence.
* Philosophy - Looking for the truth in life. I'm also not religious at all. I'm also not necessarily atheist. I sort of have my worldview.
* Nature - Camping, hiking, and walking somewhere beautiful.
* Computers / Internet - I'm into Web2.0 web sites and Linux among other things.
* Dogs - I absolutely adore dogs and animals (including humans ) in general
My favorite foods:
* Any fresh fruits and vegetables
* Thai food
* Mexican food
* Italian food
* Anything that I cook
Ideally, I'd like to find someone who's interested in business, someone who's smart and creative. Ideally a month or two from now I'd like to be living either in Japan or the U.S in a nice little apartment / house with our kids doing some kind of business or service from home.
I think there's many benefits of couples from two different cultures, e.g: "mixed":
* Being the same, but different
* Our kids will be exposed to more of the world giving them a greater advantage
* Physical attraction
* Taking the "best" of both cultures and finding the way to put them together
* Speaking two different languages
There's also negative aspects too, such as:
* Misunderstandings
* Family issues
* Having different passports
However, I'm willing to take the risk to give everything to the right person. I wish that girl were reading this post right now about to contact me. If you can give everything to me, then I promise that I will give everything to you, as well.
I'm totally honest, silly, direct, sincere, loving, and want someone in my life now for always.
There's no way I can put all of my thoughts, feelings, or history down in this one message. I just hope that when you read this that you have a feeling inside that tells you something about me. Then we can begin planning our life together right now.
Perhaps you think this message is "too open", but I'm an open and direct person. I just happen to know exactly what I'm looking for and I know what I want in life right now. I want a long-term relationship, living together, and family. I'm pretty confident that I can find work anywhere in Japan or do some kind of business.
Age is not important. To me, age is just a number. What's most important is that you have a kind heart and that you're serious about sharing everything together right now, and committed to a future.
I could relocate to where ever in Japan within the next couple months if I meet the right girl in Japan who's serious about everything right now and for our future. I'm open to going anywhere in Japan to live with the one who I love.
Shaun : )
xooxoxox
Ways to contact me online:
E-mail: loveacrossborders [at] gmail [dot] com
MSN Messenger: loveacrossborders [at] hotmail [dot] com
Yahoo Messenger: loveacrossborders
AIM: applesbliss
Skype: soulajax
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Registered: July 2007
Location: China / North America / Going to Japan soon