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Do American/European Men Make Good Husbands?
Even though this was posted before I even joined JRef I find the question absurd and foolish as a woman from any culture can make a good or bad wife.
I have known Japanese woman who could not cook or control their spending while others were just the opposite. Some were fat and cared not what they looked like while others thought differently about their appearence. It all depends on the person and not the culture as I have known similar American women.
Some Japanese women could probably sing a tune or two about how terrible American husbands are and make a post on another forum giving the impression that all American men make bad husbands.
Some people would look at my marriage and think I am the luckiest man alive with my Japanese wife and I would have to agree with them. However, had I married one of the women I dated in the past, they would think I was married to the woman from hell. In both cases they would probably make sweeping generalizations about Japanese women as a whole.
Therefore, before getting married to ANY woman (or man) from another culture including your own, make sure you are both compatible in all aspects including language and cultural barriers and you should both be together for at least a year minimum before tying the knot. If not, then trouble and misunderstanding will arise as in PandaBearDragon's case.
Even though this was posted before I even joined JRef I find the question absurd and foolish as a woman from any culture can make a good or bad wife.
Is your name Carlson? Seems like we heard this tune before. Seriously though, you will find these types of women no matter what country you are in. In all cultures there are the "good" ones and the "bad" ones. It is not defined to just one culture. It just seems you didn't get to understand the woman you were marrying and probably let the "little head" do your thinking for you as many a men do.PandaBearDragon said:I am married to a Japanise wife and many times I regret my decision.
She is nothing what I have thought she would be.
We've been married for little less than a year. I found out the other day that she's been exchanging emails with her ex-boyfriend.
She drinks way too much at night.
Oh! Did I mention that she is suicidal?
Since I married her, things has been going south.
She spends too much. I might go into debt soon.
I don't mean to scare the heck out of you but think hard before you decide to tie the knot. My advice goes to not only Japanise women but any women.
In my experience, I think there a lot of Japanise women who are materialistic.
I am screwed!
I have known Japanese woman who could not cook or control their spending while others were just the opposite. Some were fat and cared not what they looked like while others thought differently about their appearence. It all depends on the person and not the culture as I have known similar American women.
Some Japanese women could probably sing a tune or two about how terrible American husbands are and make a post on another forum giving the impression that all American men make bad husbands.
Some people would look at my marriage and think I am the luckiest man alive with my Japanese wife and I would have to agree with them. However, had I married one of the women I dated in the past, they would think I was married to the woman from hell. In both cases they would probably make sweeping generalizations about Japanese women as a whole.
Therefore, before getting married to ANY woman (or man) from another culture including your own, make sure you are both compatible in all aspects including language and cultural barriers and you should both be together for at least a year minimum before tying the knot. If not, then trouble and misunderstanding will arise as in PandaBearDragon's case.