Japanese Women

[Kamisama]

So how easy is it really to get a Japanese wife? I see the ads on Jref most of the time but whenever I see them, I wonder how often a Japanese female marries an American male. Are there certain qualifications a Japanese female seeks in an American male, or is it about money. I notice that Japanese women usually get married to a man if he makes a good amount of money to support her and the children. But with Japanese women marrying men, does this whole culture idea begin to change? Do Japanese women tend to marry American men for love, and perhaps the chance to have a family and a household while living a peaceful way of life? Or do Japanese women accept to have a busy household life taking care of children while her American husband is always away at work as if the Japanese culture never changed?

What are your ideas on this people?

[RockLee]

hmm there have been similar threads before...I don't want to give any replies, but ok...I think that's all been kind of sterotyped...but I think a lot of woman are attracted to foreigners, because of the way Japanese men act(I'm not a good source, so don't blame me ^^...there are more ppl on the forum who have experience ;-))and simply because they are different.I'm attracted to Japanese women....so I guess it's because it's different from our women :?

[Kamisama]

i've thought it was because men would go to sex places even though they are married. i thought that could have been one reason women in japan disliked japanese men. another reason might be because they want more love than money. Perhaps the man takes out anger on his wife because of his stressful job which leads many japanese men to suicide. i think there are a lot of factors and i'm thinking japanese women don't like the japanese man because of them. i don't know though. could be they know thier whole society and civil rights are f'ed up and want to be married, have kids, and yet have a job at the same time. Alcoholism would affect the marriage because of the high stress job. Family breakdowns and the children being distant from their father. I don't know if what i'm saying for ideas are stereotypical of the japanese culture. But i'm thinking these might be reasons for a japanese woman to want to marry a american male. i've read a few threads. they weren't very good.

[budd]

"I don't want to give any replies,"
me either

[blade]

I've heard of many cases where a J-girl would marry an American, but a year or two later get a divorce because Mr. America can't support a family because his job at gas panic or the ekaiwa is not enough to support her. Some J-girls fall in love with the American boy image (blue eyes blond hair), it's really "cool", but when they realize that their husband is a low life when it comes to work the image of "American boy" wears off. So what I'm saying is please get some sort of a skill where you can support a wife and children properly before you get married.

[Tateishi]

i've thought it was because men would go to sex places even though they are married. i thought that could have been one reason women in japan disliked japanese men. another reason might be because they want more love than money. Perhaps the man takes out anger on his wife because of his stressful job which leads many japanese men to suicide. i think there are a lot of factors and i'm thinking japanese women don't like the japanese man because of them. i don't know though. could be they know thier whole society and civil rights are f'ed up and want to be married, have kids, and yet have a job at the same time. Alcoholism would affect the marriage because of the high stress job. Family breakdowns and the children being distant from their father. I don't know if what i'm saying for ideas are stereotypical of the japanese culture. But i'm thinking these might be reasons for a japanese woman to want to marry a american male. i've read a few threads. they weren't very good.

That is just one of the siliest stereotypes. Men going to sex places even when they are married is not just limited to Japanese men, not all Japanese Marriages are loveless. There are plenty of American's who live in loveless marriages, are bad husbands, have high stress jobs, suffer from alcholism. Don't know why you're associating all this with just Japan. For example, my boss start work at 8:30 every morning and works until almost 11 every night, almost 7 days a week, for months on end and he has a wonderful family, that loves him, although misses him. He doesn't suffer from what you pointed out above. Take a note, Japanese girls also like Japanese men. :?

There are alot of girls over here that do look for security in a potential husband and alot of them would like to just stay home and be housewives. But aren't there these types of girls in every country? :? Japanese girls are alot like there western counter parts, except without the 4 inches of fat hanging over their leg tight jeans. It all depends on the girl you meet.

[Ewok85]

Tateishi has a point, you cant just make a sterotype like that, because the fact of the matter is that you have the same here (australia or america) as well as Japan.

For example my girlfriend doesnt want to be a housewife but carry out research on environmental problems (engineering student specialising in process chemistry, shes one smart cookie). Many of my japanese friends are happy with japanese partners. And why american male? Whats wrong with me!* :(

* -note: im being sarcastic here

[Mike Cash]

I think Kamisama would do well to limit his reading about Japan, or to find different sources. Whatever he has been using so far in order to form his opinions/preconceptions has not been serving him well. I hope I have expressed this mildly enough, because it took a strong conscious effort to do so.

[jieshi]

I read a book that said something along the lines of what kamisama is saying. Although it was a book so I don't believe it necessarily as I would need to experience it firsthand to say that it was that huge. And tateishi is right, it doesn't just happen in Japan it happens everywhere. Sydney makes huge amounts of money from these sort of industries (kings cross, oxford st etc.) it isn't just limited to Japan

[Kamisama]

wtf i didn't sterotype i just stated alcoholism as a factor. stereotype? nah i don't think so. I understand america has it's alcoholics i don't understand why you "assumed" that i didn't know that. maybe because i didn't say that. oh well. But i'm looking at the factors of time and togetherness. It seems quite odd how a woman is willing to stay home and take care of the children. Unless you look at certain religions like LDS in america where they want to make everything like the 30's again. I'm just looking at it from the perspective that a japanese woman can spend more time with her family throughout life in america. Plus the fact that civil laws are better. I feel it's odd for a japanese woman to have to quit her job when she gets married. Maybe back in the day in America i could have seen it if i was a conformist. But, i'm not. I just think there is more to this.

mikecash has such an awesome pumpkin picture.

[Ewok85]

Stereotype:- A conventional, formulaic, and oversimplified conception, opinion, or image.

Women dont HAVE to leave work once married, they may choose to though. In all 3 of the host families i stayed with the last 2 years the lady of the house worked, one in the local council, one as an english teacher full time and the other in a parttime job.

Must agree about the pumpkin though, thats pretty nifty.

[misa.j]

Kamisama,

It is not easy to get a Japanese woman as a wife, not because they like to marry a man who is rich or because they will want to be a stay home mom; it is hard because marrying someone is a life commitment.

Those ads you see might give you vague ideas of many Japanese women like western males, seeking to marry a foriegner; it is up to you how to take it although it seems to me that they are good catch. If you know what I mean.

[budd]

i don't think so, but that is my own personal observation/opinion/experience, obviously

[Kamisama]

misa.j that is a good comment, best one i've gotten that sounds clinically sane.

[TwistedMac]

"clinically sane"?...

why would you need to go to a clinic if you're sane?... I don't get it.

[Kamisama]

Matrix wa nan desu ka.

[TwistedMac]

you're a glitch in the matrix, hitman.

[ferrariboy]

Americanism would be wrong... generally speaking if you're Asian living in Asia then there will always be a certain amount of fascination with the West.

When it comes to girlfriends and wives, it's very dependant on a number of factors and everyone will have different opinions.

My fiance is Japanese and we get along perfect. Of course, the reality is that working in an eikawa is not going to support a family especially in Japan.

My 2 cents is just treat your woman with love and respect, no matter the nationality and you'll all be fine.

[Vu Hoang]

I will married a J-Girl
I think they're so cute but I'm in Vietnam lolz :sorry:

[dreamer]

Sigh...but why are some people so attracted to a nationality? -_-
Really it's starting to look like those chinese girls/guys who want to marry a western person just to get a western nationality...

[Hitomi Himuro]

Wrong Wrong! All any woman wants is to be loved and know that there going to be ok in life even if that means they have to support themselves. No woman will support there lazy *** husband if he doesn't even make an attempt to help out with chores or providing for the family.

Japanese woman like myself are like an American woman or Canadian woman. We all think the same and most of us act the same too.

[dreamer]

No woman will support there lazy *** husband if he doesn't even make an attempt to help out with chores or providing for the family.

Now I understand why they all say I'd make a good wife :shock:

[jman]

i agree with rock lee i like jgirls more than amr erican girls beacause i love japan and it kida revolves around me
ninja:

I will married a J-Girl beacuase they are so hot :bravo: :cool:

[Kei_Shugojin]

It's super easy to get a japanese girlfriend. Just give them 5,00 US.

:shock: :sick: *slap* that's just sick, man.

[joel.lindgren]

"Kill all niggers!"
Would people's reactions make this statement funny just because I know that I don't really mean it? If you're going to write racist crap you have to except people to react. The fact that he bought your "joke" doesn't mean it's not offensive.

[cicatriz esp]

One word comes to mind when i think of Japanese girls: duplicitous.

[Kei_Shugojin]

^^^I'm guessing you've had some bad experiences before, neh?

[Kamisama]

Tisk. a thread gone bad.
Yeah, go for it. Make sure you kick them when they're down.

Japanese girls are hot.
The only thing we don't have in America, is fashion and opiates(well it's legal there).
Other than that, I could make money and do chores.

But the whole point was about spending time with your woman.
Don't let women fool you. They dislike being away from their man for long periods of time. Women are moody.

Thus the reason I brought up the idea of American's being better because we don't work super long hours at a job like in Japan.

Japan has it's benefits with children though.
Kids spend long hours at school and the mother doesn't have to put up with their crap.

Then again in America, we have extra curriculur activities.
Creating what is known sometimes as the Soccer Mom. Where she is entertained while her child acts crazy kicking a ball wasting their energy and calming down for the day.

Anyways this thread is a miss.

Not enough research is done, and Japanese people are too quiet to be foolish and emotional thus leading to a high suicide rate.

Forget I even asked.

By the way Mike, if you're going to speak you might as well give some resources to prove me wrong. Otherwise you are pretty much making an assumption like I am.

[Minstrual Bunt]

Marriage is not so much about love, it's a business relationship. The woman's duty is to cook and clean and have children, the man's is to make money. Be successful and grow old together and then you can start to enjoy each other's company. And yes, you'll never earn enough in eikaiwa to please your wife.

Sex usually stops after kids are born, so there is a big sex industry here. I'm not sure what anyone thinks is wrong with pornography. It's legal, some women like it, some women are even in it. It depends on the person. Men drink a lot after work, depending on the woman that may or may not be a problem. I don't see too many women dissatisfied with Japanese men. Most seem pretty happy to me, as long as he's making money. Though they often find sexual fulfilment outside the matrimonial futon. There are some Japanese women who will place the foreigner's good looks and kindness on top of the Japanese man's character and come up with an imaginary chimera, a man who will slave away at work as well as at home. Is this you?

[Ewok85]

This thread is comedy gold, hope you guys enjoy puberty while it lasts