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Pachipro
Apr 25, 2005, 16:10
I met Suzuki-san in 1979 during my junior year at Sophia University. The house across the street renovated their downstairs and opened up a small snack. How strange I thought, that a gsnackh would open up on a residential street. It really is true that you can open up a business anywhere in Japan! (A snack is a small establishment that serves alcohol and cooked food. Since they serve food, they can stay open until the wee hours of the morning. A bar, on the other hand, serves mainly alcohol, almost no food, and had to close by midnight-1am. I think it still holds true today.)

I had never ventured into that place because I was too busy with school and teaching or I was out partying with my friends at discos and gLive Housesh (places where live rock music was played).

Some nights when I was studying or trying to sleep, I would hear the singing of karaoke from that little place. It really bugged me at times, but I let it slide as this was, after all, Japan and karaoke was becoming all the rage. What the big deal was about karaoke was beyond me, but the Japanese just loved singing to the gempty orchestra.h

Yes, this was Japan. One of the few places in the world where you can rent an apartment with paper thin walls and hear your neighbors snoring or making love as clearly as if there were no walls. But, like everyone else, I pretended that I didnft hear them, and never complained or knocked on the walls, and neither did they. After all, I knew they could hear me also when I had a gguesth for the night no matter how quiet I tried to be. It was something you got used to and learned to live with.

Anyway, one night at about 10 pm, having nothing to do, I decided to venture over to that place. I opened up the sliding door and ducked under the curtain. Talk about a hole in the wall! The place was no more than eight feet wide by maybe, 16 feet long and had a counter that sat 6 people. Thatfs it. Any more than 6 or 7 people in that place and it would be deemed over crowded and a fire hazard.

The place was empty and I was greeted with the customary gIrrashaimaseh and sat at the bar. I could tell that the small (no more that 5 ft tall) mama-san was perplexed that a ggaijinh came into her place, so I quickly ordered a beer in Japanese. As the place was empty, I wanted to put her at ease in case she thought I was going to rob her or start some trouble.

She gave me the beer with the customary small plate of some snacks. Sometimes it would be potato chips, or peanuts, or pickles, or whatever she was serving with drinks that night.

Since I ordered in Japanese she began the conversation with the usual g20 questionsh in Japanese. gOh, you speak Japanese?h gWhat do you do?h gDo you like sushi?h gDo you live around here?h etc., etc.

I answered her questions and I could tell that she quickly became at ease with me, especially since I told her I lived across the street. After the questions stopped it became eerily quiet, so I ordered another beer and wondered if anyone else would come in here.

The mama-san asked if I was hungry and I scanned the menu on the wall and ordered some edamame (soy beans in the pod) and some Ika Maru Yaki (Fried squid rings). Live in Japan long enough and you come to find out that one important, unwritten rule-of-thumb in Japan is that one MUST order food with ones drink in a snack.

She was impressed that I could read Japanese and quickly made my order. More small talk followed while she cooked my order and played some music in the background. Still no one came in.

After being there for what seemed like an hour or so, the sliding door opened and an older Japanese man with a black French beret and glasses on walked in. I glanced over to the door and was surprised to see that he had a dog on his back! He was carrying it the way mothers carried their babies on their backs! In Japan this is known as gonbu suruh, to carry on ones back. How strange and cool I thought!

He came in and the mama-san got him his gkeyh bottle of whisky from behind the counter. I could read the name gSuzuki and Jiroh on the bottle. For those unfamiliar with the term, A "Key Bottle" is a bottle of Whisky, Sake, Shochu, etc. that you purchase at a bar or snack for about double or triple (depending on the area) its regular price. Your name is put on it and it is kept on a shelf for the next time you come in. Once you purchase a "Key Bottle" you only have to pay for a bucket of ice & water if you are drinking mixed drinks. This usually costs about 500 or more yen depending on the area. If you are drinking it straight, then you pay nothing. In either case it is expected that you will order something to eat. Itfs still the most economical way to drink when out in Japan and you frequent a place often.

Jiro was the name of his dog. It was a beautiful gShiba-kenh (http://www.bulldoginformation.com/japanese-dog-breeds.html) dog. Anyone who has lived in Japan for any length of time knows what type of dogs they are.

Suzuki-san bent his knees and lowered the dog to the floor. Mama-san brought the dog a bowl of water and Suzuki-san sat at the far end of the counter about three seats away and didnft even acknowledge that I was there. I looked at him, nodded my head in a greeting and said, konbanwa (good evening). He nodded back with a little grunt of gUnh.

I love dogs, so I bent over to pet his dog which was quite friendly. Still no acknowledgement or words from Suzuki-san. gWell, the heck with you too,h I thought and went about drinking my beer and eating my squid and edamame.

Mama-san played some more music and they began to talk. I ignored them as, although I could hear most of the words and phrases they were saying, I had no idea what the subject was. Thatfs one of the great things of the Japanese language. You can have a conversation with someone and only you two know what youfre talking about as the subject is understood between the speakers and is usually never mentioned in front of strangers.

After a while I heard him say, gKono hito dare?h Whofs this person? Mama-san came over to me and asked my name. I told her it was Joe. She repeated my name and he said with a bow of his head, gJoe-san, yoroshiku hajimemashte,h Nice to meet you Joe. I noticed he was missing a middle tooth. He introduced himself as Suzuki.

I replied and introduced myself in Japanese and we began to talk with the usual g20 questionsh. I found out that he was a retired business man who lived alone with his dog about a 10 minute walk away. His wife had died two years previous.

He started looking through a book and after a while asked to sing a song. Mama-san slipped an eight-track tape into the player and he began to sing while reading the words from a book.

After the song was over, he asked if I could read Japanese. I replied that I could. He then asked if I could sing karaoke and I told him that no, I couldnft. He said I should learn. I told him that I couldnft carry a tune and would probably sound terrible. I also told him that I was too shy. He said he would teach me. I replied to the effect of gThanks, but no thanks.h Suzuki-san looked disappointed and our conversation suddenly came to a halt. He continued singing now and then for the next half hour or so, but didnft say much to me.

I didnft know it then, but in Japan when you are asked to sing a song when out with a group or another person, no matter how shy you are or how terrible you sound, you MUST sing. Everyone does and no one will put you down or boo you for it like they do in the states on gkary okeyh (US pronunciation) nights. Failure to do so will cause you to lose gfaceh and make you look gstuck-uph or gtoo goodh in front of the others. Even if you canft read Japanese, there will always be words to some corny song in English that everyone knows, like gYesterday, by the Beatles or gYou Are My Sunshineh or gMy Wayh by Frank Sinatra, etc.

In my six years there to date no one has ever asked me to sing a song. Maybe they took it for granted that I couldnft or wouldnft sing. I donft know. Besides, till then karaoke was not all that popular and was just coming into its own.

Anyway, another customer came in and he and Mr. Suzuki began to talk. After a while they were both singing. Again he asked me, and again I politely declined. They just ignored me after that and I finally paid my bill and went home.

I went there the next night as it was pretty convenient and was told that Suzuki-san came in there about 3 or 4 times a week always with his dog. I went there maybe 2-3 times a week after that and every time Suzuki-san was there he would try to get me to sing and every time I declined. However, he didnft ignore me and we became close. Every time I went and he was there or would come in later, he would great me with a loud gJoe-san!h I can still hear his voice today.

About three weeks later I went there at about 9pm and Suzuki-san was already there and, as usual, began singing. I really liked the tunes to some of the songs he was singing. Some of them I knew from the other bars and radio and TV and some I didnft. He pushed me again to sing and, again, I declined.

After about three beers, one which was bought by Suzuki-san, he again pushed me to sing. I finally gave in and said gOk, Ifll try.h He selected what he called an easy song: gOmae Nih by Frank Nagai. He opened the book of words and we began to go over it together. The words were simple, mostly hiragana with a few kanji that I knew. After he was satisfied that I could read all the words he asked mama to play the tape. We each had a microphone and we went over it together with me following his lead. It was a simple song that anyone could sing. Then he asked that I sing it alone. The tape was played and I did pretty well for my first try. He made me do it about three times afterwards to make sure I got it. With the echo turned up I didnft sound half bad after all.

I mastered that song that night. The next time he taught me another song: gKuchinashi no Hana.h I forget who sang it. I mastered that and after about a month I was able to sing about 10 different songs. My favorite song though was gKitaguni no Haru by Sen Masao.

Soon he began to take me to other places in the neighborhood and we would sing songs. He would sing one and then I would sing one. We became the hit of the neighborhood snacks and the bars around the train station. Me, Suzuki-san, and Jiro. Jiro soon began to take to me and we would walk from the bar across from my apartment to the other places with Jiro on my back. Soon I was known and welcomed in almost every snack and bar in the neighborhood. I was known as the gaijin who could sing Japanese enka. He even knew the mama-san in the gMurasakih bar I mentioned in a previous story, but we were never there together.

I made many more friends there and Suzuki-san and I became the closest of friends along with the mama-san. I looked to him like one would a grandfather. He would visit me often at my apartment with Jiro and we would sit and talk while watching TV and drinking. We would play pachinko together. Once or twice he even cooked for me. A couple of times he came with me to Yokohama when I carried the Omikoshi during festivals with my friend and he even bought me a watch when I graduated the University which I still wear to this day.

I really came to love that man. We were together at least 3 days a week for two years. We just plain enjoyed each others company and not once were our conversations conducted in anything but Japanese. Even though he knew some basic English, he never tried speaking it. I can still hear him knocking on my apartment door at about 8 or 9pm saying gJoe-san nomimashou!h Joe! Lets go drinking. Always with Jiro on his back.

On August 17, 1981 I was awakened in the middle of the night by the sound of fire engines. They sounded really close. I looked outside, and since they werenft on my street, I went back to sleep. The next morning I get a knock on the door and it is the mama-san in tears telling me that Suzuki-san and Jiro died in a fire the previous night. It turned out he fell asleep while smoking and the rest is history. I mustfve cried for a week after that.

Yes, even today I still visit a few of the places we used to frequent at Odakyuu-Sagamihara station that are still there. And every time I sing, I make sure to always sing gOmae Nih in honor of Mr. Suzuki. The song may be 25 or 30 years old and ancient, but I donft care. And I always preface the song with a tribute to my Ojiisan (grandfather) and gsenseih (teacher) who never gave up on the young gaijin and taught him to sing Japanese enka.

Suzuki-san I will never forget you!

epigene
Apr 25, 2005, 17:37
Oh, Odakyu-Sagamihara!!

I went there for the first time in 1981, when I got engaged to my husband and visited his folks for the first time. Since then, we visit them at least during New Year's and summer bon season, unless they visit us at our home. The area near the station is not a particularly attractive place with pachinko parlors and snack bars and Itoh Yokado. But, at one time, my husband (who doesn't frequent bars and clubs) dropped by one of the snack bars and made friends with the young girls there, as well as with a mama-san who speaks only Korean at an small shop selling Korean foodstuff. He told me he liked the people there.

After reading your story, I will be walking its streets in a new light... :souka:

Thank you so much for your story.

Sody
Apr 25, 2005, 17:47
Man, that was an awesome story! :cool: Thanks a lot for sharing that. I've been lurking on this site for a few weeks now and it was this story section that led me to join because I wanted to hear more about the life experiences people have had in Japan (I am going there to teach English for a year). I really want some great life experiences too.

Sorry about the deaths of your friends though :(

Sody

Index
Apr 25, 2005, 20:49
Great story Pachipro! :30:

keanureave2002
Apr 25, 2005, 23:20
Wow.. a good story.. Anyway you are so lucky to meet a old man who have treated you like his own son.. By the way.. does that old man have a son? or only a dog as his companion?.. Thx for the story

Shibuyaexpat
Apr 27, 2005, 15:00
Joe (if you don't me calling you that),
I was really touched by your story. Having spent most of my time in other parts of the this forum, aruging about politics and history, I began to develop a very narrow view of Japan. However, after reading your story, and more importantly, realizing that what's most important is the human, face-to-face contact, I've begun to see another side to life in Japan. Thanks!

Shibuyaexat

Pachipro
Apr 27, 2005, 22:32
Oh, Odakyu-Sagamihara!!

I went there for the first time in 1981, when I got engaged to my husband and visited his folks for the first time.
Then you and I were there at the same time! What a small world! :cool:

Thanks a lot for sharing that. I've been lurking on this site for a few weeks now and it was this story section that led me to join because I wanted to hear more about the life experiences people have had in Japan (I am going there to teach English for a year). I really want some great life experiences too.
I'm glad that this little slice of life enticed you to join the forums. Welcome :wave: You will have some great experiences. I guaranteee it.

By the way.. does that old man have a son? or only a dog as his companion?..
He spoke of a son that was living up in one of the northern prefectures, but didn't talk about him often. I got the impression that they weren't that close.

I was really touched by your story. Having spent most of my time in other parts of the this forum, aruging about politics and history, I began to develop a very narrow view of Japan. However, after reading your story, and more importantly, realizing that what's most important is the human, face-to-face contact, I've begun to see another side to life in Japan. Thanks!
I am pleased that it had that effect on you Shibuyaexpat. Makes me feel kind of good that I posted it and that you now see Japan in a different light. Granted it's not always "peaches and cream" living there, but I throughly enjoyed my experiences with the people and the friends I made more than anything. Make a few friends and you'll have real, honest friends for life. One guy I met when I was eighteen, 33 years ago, is still my closest and dearest friend. I'll relay a story about him in a future post.

misa.j
Apr 28, 2005, 09:56
I really enjoy reading your stories, Pachipro. Thanks for sharing.
Your stories restore positive pictures of Japan which I've forgotten long time ago.
I'm glad you met good people in Japan.
Do you know what happened to his dog, Jiro?

My father used to be a regular customer at the bars and the snacks; sometimes my mother took me along when she went to pick him up, and we stayed till he was done drinking or 'singing', he loved those songs you mentioned in your post. Your story brought me back so many memories.

A5573A
May 10, 2005, 10:15
Arigatou Joe-San :cool:

P.S. Is my spelling correct?

Pachipro
May 11, 2005, 00:09
Do you know what happened to his dog, Jiro?
Unfortunately, his dog, Jiro, was killed along with him in the fire as mentioned. They were inseperable, so it was kind of poetic, in a sad way, that they passed away together.

Arigatou Joe-San

P.S. Is my spelling correct?
Ie, kochira koso AA5573A-san. Yes your spelling is correct.

ArmandV
May 11, 2005, 13:59
Great story! I was wondering, is the "snack" still there?

Doc
May 11, 2005, 14:21
You always tell great stories Pachipro! Thank you for telling us it, I almost cried after reading it because it was so beautiful.:cool:

Doc:ramen::happy:

Faustianideals
May 11, 2005, 14:23
I'm sorry about your loss, I'm sure he's in a better place now. Great story too, but yeah emotional as well.
Please post more, ;)

Pachipro
May 12, 2005, 00:31
Great story! I was wondering, is the "snack" still there?
No the 'snack' is no longer there. As it was the only business on that residential street, and built next to the owners house it never really had many customers and was closed after about 2 years.

You always tell great stories Pachipro! Thank you for telling us it, I almost cried after reading it because it was so beautiful.
Thanks Doc. It made me tear up writing it also. As I often think fondly of Suzuki-san, it never really bothered me these past several years until I actually wrote it down.

I'm sorry about your loss, I'm sure he's in a better place now. Great story too, but yeah emotional as well.
Please post more, ;)
Another experience will be coming shortly. :wave:

Faustianideals
May 12, 2005, 07:58
Great to hear, may I ask a question though. Is the bar still up?

andorin
May 24, 2005, 03:34
[[Originally Posted by ArmandV
Great story! I was wondering, is the "snack" still there?

No the 'snack' is no longer there. As it was the only business on that residential street, and built next to the owners house it never really had many customers and was closed after about 2 years.]]

no, thor, the bar isnt still up.

pachipro, as ive just joined this forum, ive just come across all your stories and this one might be my favorite so far. it was quite the tear jerker at the end. thank you for sharing.