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gwendy85
Sep 14, 2008, 06:39
I ran into this article over the internet: http://kyushu.com/gleaner/issue43/story.shtml

Recently I read some books that treat the differences between English Culture and Japanese. The books treat the mystery of the Japanese smile. They say foreigners think it is very strange.

Once I talked with an American. I could not understand what he said. I smiled unconsciously. So - I know the reason for the Japanese smile. Now, I will explain to you about it.

When do you think a person smiles? I think when he is happy, he does. When he is sad, he doesn't. Anyway when a person is happy he smiles. But Japanese have some exceptions. If you made a mistake, what do you do? Do you change color or make an excuse and tremble? In general, we Japanese smile. But we are not happy but very shameful. Then we smile bitterly. Why? For Japanese don't like to express their feelings. We tend to think to express our feelings is shameful. If foreigners know our weak points, we think as if we are weaker than they. So we smile to cover our shame.

Another case, someone asks you something, but you don't know about it.

What do you do? I suppose you will explain the reasons why you don't know. But some Japanese smile. Why do they do so? It is because we Japanese think feelings are very important. Always we think other's feeling. We tend to think foreigners do the same as we do. So, to smile for us mean "I don't know" Japanese scarcely explain about the reason.

This is why the Japanese smile has various meanings. Japanese culture is Silent Culture. In Japan, however many complaints we have, we don't express them.

It is a virtue not to complain about anything. Japanese have been taught perseverance since they were children. I don't know if it is good for us not to say. I think Japanese have become 'men of few words' to restrain themselves. Moreover, In Japan there is a bad tendency. There is a proverb, "A tall tree catches much wind." As the proverb says, people envy a man who says what he wants to do. Japanese don't like a conflict. They avoid it as long as possible. So, they need perseverance, that is, they continue to be silent. I think these factors make the Japanese people of few words and make Japanese culture a silent one.

I would like to close my story by saying this. When they are embarrassed, Japanese smile. Remember this story please. Please understand us: Japanese culture.



I just need some clarity on this one. You see, I finished my novel and a lot of the characters are Japanese, particularly the main character. I'm in the process of revising the novel and I want to be as accurate as possible with how he may act and feel and express emotions.

I have a few questions. And by the way, my novel is set in World War II so contemporary Japanese attitudes may not apply.

Questions:

1.) If most Japanese try to hide emotions, what emotions are generally shown by men?

2.) Are men allowed to cry? Is it shameful to cry?

3.) How about complaints/dissatisfaction about something? Can that be aired out in words?


:souka::souka::souka::souka:

On another note, I'd also like to ask about mixed bloods. What was the general attitude towards interracial children during the 1940s and how different is it today? (think gaijin complex)

Thanks much. Hope to hear your replies, guyz :wave: I really wanna make this novel work :bluush:

Glenski
Sep 14, 2008, 07:34
1. frustration, anger, annoyance, comaraderie, thankfulness, etc.

2. Yes, they are "allowed" to cry, but like most countries, they usually tend to hold it back. Just watch any movie.

3. yes, but depending on the situation, it may not happen. Resolutoins may be performed behind closed doors, so to speak.

I only read the quote you showed here, but it seems to me that there are a couple of situations one must take into account, the way the author is explaining things.
1) whether Japanese people express emotions to each other
2) whether Japanese people express emotions to foreigners
All I can say is, situations vary. The example given about smiling when one makes a mistake might hold for the author, but not for any of the students I have ever taught!

The "perseverance" mentioned is often described in Japanese with "gaman" (patience), or "shoganai" (it can't be helped). To explain more casually, they often just suck it up and take negative circumstances instead of expressing their dislike for something outwardly. But, they may indeed show it to people, especially close friends/family. Ever see/hear a Japanese sucking through his teeth?

Couldn't tell you what the "gaijin complex" was like in wartime, other than speculating that it was more severe than now. Many (I will not guess the percentage) Japanese accept mixed marriages and mixed blood children now. Not all, but I would believe with globalization and modernization, the acceptance is far higher now. Pretty obvious why.

gwendy85
Sep 14, 2008, 07:47
Thanks Glenski! That was really helpful! Arigato! :cool:

Crystallize
Sep 14, 2008, 12:50
Mwha, ha ha, you (JPN people) think you're good at hiding feelings... well, all I have to say is that "come on when you'll get in my class!!!" ... mwha ha ha ...

Ok, I also heard that JPN people doesn't exactly tell what they feel to one another, that everything have to "indirect" ... but is that really an absolute? something in me has a bit hard time to understand it, because there is such obvious things like "if you loose in love, of course you cry" no doubt, or you never really loved at all, and to love is not such a bad thing, not always such a good thing either though ... and sometimes you wish you could love, sometimes you wished you wouldn't ... ... even when you can't help it ... it's anyways always hard and complicated ... well for me at least ... that's why I'm always so happy, just see my sig !