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Tailsop
Dec 3, 2008, 05:02
I've been taking a japanese class at my college and i always try to make friends there but espesialy try to get asian friends. For some reason it seems harder for me i suppose but the same gose for another topic that was on this forum about the japanese making small talk and thats as close your going to get to them so like how could i make friends here?
sudanesegirl
Dec 4, 2008, 00:33
The adequacy of your need is a friend. Haklk which is cultivated by love and thank the medal tally. You come to the hungry, and it seeks, Mstdva. If you clearly friend is afraid that the idea of states including the denial of your mind, or retain, including from so you understand. Because it seems to generation climber has more clarity and Kpra easy to run. If the silence of a friend and did not speak, they cut off your heart from listening to the voice of his heart. That the friendship does not need words and phrases in all but the ideas and desires and wishes involving friends of great joy in picking fruit Alianat. The dead and a friend not to be sad parting caused. Taatashgah because it, more of everything else, it may be pointed out, while his absence in the eyes of your love for him, while his presence.:kanashii::11:
Tailsop
Dec 5, 2008, 04:42
What in the world are you talking about?:souka:
I think that her post was done through a translatin generator.. of some sort.
Half-n-Half
Dec 5, 2008, 05:28
I would imagine the same way you make other friends. Making it a point to be friends "just because they are Asian" will probably turn them off. You can't really force friendship, it just has to happen naturally.
Might I ask why you specifically want to make Asian friends?
I've been taking a japanese class at my college and i always try to make friends there but espesialy try to get asian friends. For some reason it seems harder for me i suppose but the same gose for another topic that was on this forum about the japanese making small talk and thats as close your going to get to them so like how could i make friends here?
Simple question really... difficult answer. I think everyone who is studying a language runs into the same problem. Most aren't looking to use someone for their culture or native language skills, but simply would like to have more exposure to friends who ARE of a certain region.
Best advice I can give is put yourself in an environment which more "Asians" exist. Community fairs, Buddhist church festivals, culture fairs, or community projects. Since you are at college, seek out Japanese, Korean, Asian college clubs, or go to the international study abroad department to ask if there is any way you can help or work with them in regards to students coming from Asia and explain (clearly) your reasons why in regards to cultural exposure.
Through all of this, be careful of having ideas of what you WANT back. Take what you get.
FrustratedDave
Dec 5, 2008, 08:40
The adequacy of your need is a friend. Haklk which is cultivated by love and thank the medal tally. You come to the hungry, and it seeks, Mstdva. If you clearly friend is afraid that the idea of states including the denial of your mind, or retain, including from so you understand. Because it seems to generation climber has more clarity and Kpra easy to run. If the silence of a friend and did not speak, they cut off your heart from listening to the voice of his heart. That the friendship does not need words and phrases in all but the ideas and desires and wishes involving friends of great joy in picking fruit Alianat. The dead and a friend not to be sad parting caused. Taatashgah because it, more of everything else, it may be pointed out, while his absence in the eyes of your love for him, while his presence.:kanashii::11:
Well explian this for me then sudanesegirl!
http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3127/3082747573_c8c163c950_o.jpg
I've been taking a japanese class at my college and i always try to make friends there but espesialy try to get asian friends. For some reason it seems harder for me i suppose but the same gose for another topic that was on this forum about the japanese making small talk and thats as close your going to get to them so like how could i make friends here?
Give it some time, you can't force people to be your friends and that goes for Asian people too. The question is, why do you specificaly want asian friends? If it is for your own benift then those people are probably seeing right through you and have every right to keep their distance.
Another idea is to try to find avenues that Asian student would be seeking US students. English tutoring, pen pals, cultural exchange.
As for the Mario question. It is a trick question and simply doesn't consider DEPTH. It is looking at it from only a 2d perspective, thus it misses the concept of mass in relation to Mario and the Mushroom. If you consider this, of course it would balance out!
ASHIKAGA
Dec 5, 2008, 11:19
I ATE the mushroom Mario had and could understand Sudanesegirl's post perfectly.
Oh, and to the OP, I have suggested this on another thread to another user but have you tried craigslist?
Tailsop
Dec 5, 2008, 14:03
Simple question really... difficult answer. I think everyone who is studying a language runs into the same problem. Most aren't looking to use someone for their culture or native language skills, but simply would like to have more exposure to friends who ARE of a certain region.
Best advice I can give is put yourself in an environment which more "Asians" exist. Community fairs, Buddhist church festivals, culture fairs, or community projects. Since you are at college, seek out Japanese, Korean, Asian college clubs, or go to the international study abroad department to ask if there is any way you can help or work with them in regards to students coming from Asia and explain (clearly) your reasons why in regards to cultural exposure.
Through all of this, be careful of having ideas of what you WANT back. Take what you get.
Ah i see where your going thanks dude,other than friendship i really want to pass the final test so that i can move on to the next level of japanese.
dreamer
Dec 5, 2008, 17:57
As an asian myself, I know that when I was in France, some people were attracted to me...that is until they realized that I couldn't speak Japanese.
As far as I have witnessed, it's the same with Japanese people. They show an initial curiosity when in presence of foreigners, but this usually doesn't last long. I stop counting how many of my acquaintances were surprised when the japanese people they "befriended" stopped answering their e-mails.
That goes to show that even though you might be in a 100% asian environment, it's still difficult to keep contact.
From my point of view, I'd say that as long as you don't appear too much of a maniac, it's easy to meet people from other countries/culture. However, the difficult part as in any relation is to keep the interest alive for both sides.
As far as I have witnessed, it's the same with Japanese people. They show an initial curiosity when in presence of foreigners, but this usually doesn't last long. I stop counting how many of my acquaintances were surprised when the japanese people they "befriended" stopped answering their e-mails.
I am *really* glad that you pointed this out, dreamer.
Not suprisingly, I've gone through this, too, several'everal times.
But as far as keeping the friendship alive, both people would need to desire doing so. I can't stress myself out everyday trying to find new ways to keep my freind's attention, fearing I may lose them if I don't. It shouldn't have to be that way anyhow, no matter what background either of us are from, because true friendship is mutual.
Even if my new "friend" were the same race/culture as mine, I would not consider them a friend if they only saw me as a temporary interest, anyway.
Perhaps a friendship that began over the internet may only be seen as "a service of the internet" and not "the beginning of a real, personal friendship" to some people. The initial assumption that the person you meet online will never see you face-to-face can really stump a relationship, when if fact even happy marraiges have resulted over folks meeting online many times over.
Chris K
Dec 6, 2008, 00:05
Join a kendo class??
Chidoriashi
Dec 6, 2008, 00:49
Umm, I do not want this to sound like a smart aleck answer, but I think it is pretty similar to how you get all your other friends. In any case doesn't your college have some sort of friends of Japan club or something like that? Or how about volunteering to be an aid/tutor to the exchange students. (assuming you mean Asians who are not Americans). Just be yourself and try not to be pushy, or creepy so that you would scare them off. (not saying you are, but you know, don't act obsessive). And give them space too, and respect that sometimes they may just want to hang out with other students from their own country sometimes. (if you ever study abroad in Japan you will understand this feeling).
spicytuna
Dec 6, 2008, 03:57
As others have mentioned, check to see if you have a Japanese student organization at your college or any nearby college. All you need is a few friends to start networking.
Alternatively, check out meetup.com and find the closest Japanese language meetup group.
Tailsop
Dec 6, 2008, 13:59
Yeah i kind of got all of that on the last reply i made.
talineflores
Dec 6, 2008, 19:10
Im a newbie hir and im interested to have clean talk with asian. Im from the Philippines but im interested to communicate and learn the culture of other asian countries around my own country.
Thanks..:-)
talineflores
Dec 6, 2008, 19:17
It is always hard to start a new relationship even as to be friends.But hey, soon you can work things out.For sure you'll find friends when they feel your eagerness to be their friends.Just stay nice and you'll see, one or two of them will start to approach you and perhaps you'll be surprise that beyond culture and differences, you guys can start a much nicer friendship.:haihai:
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