View Full Version : Women???
samuraitora
Oct 30, 2003, 02:46
I was just wondering if Japanese women are as complex as other women?
I have delt with a lot of women in my life. Some good, some bad. Races ranging from African, American, Spanish, Italian, French, etc. I haven't had much contact with Japanese women. The little that I have makes me think that they are shy and timid. Am I way off base?
I would appreciate some input to clear up a little confusion.
i wouldn't say timid, definitely not after the getting-to-know stage
I can understand why your relationships end
neko_girl22
Oct 30, 2003, 10:27
eimik, what kinda comment is that??
samurai - in my experience in knowing Japanese girls and having a brother married to one is that they APPEAR shy, but they are as fiesty and strong spirited as all women. Unfortunately many westen men marry J-woman because they like such quiet, timid girls, but in time they find they are very strong!! :p
Fixxx0r
Oct 30, 2003, 12:49
well from what i've heard they are extremley complicated people and to fully understand thier psyche you need to be japanese a recommended site for such things is www.mynippon.com
by the way i'm new so how is everybody and hello!!!
Mandylion
Oct 30, 2003, 13:06
I take issue with the only way to fully understand an ethnic / gender group is to be born as a member of it. Just a bit too exclusive for my taste as it also implies a big communication gap and lack of empathy. Not attacking you Fixxxer so please don't take it the wrong way :)
While Japanese people in general (not just the ladies) may be more reserved in public, get to know any of them really well and you will find they can be just as stubborn, strong-willed, assertive, boot-strapping, resolute and determined as anyone. They just often choose not to be so where other people might be upset by their actions.
koff koff koff koff
man, that ain't no regular site! *cleans cache and turns off images*
Swifty
Oct 30, 2003, 21:36
it is hard to get and experiance with J-girls if you arent in japan lol :bluush:
where i am there is a small amount of j-girls to start and then also they tend to keep to j-guys, oh the barriers lol :bawling: :auch: :eek:
lineartube
Oct 30, 2003, 21:55
My experience is that they can be as complex as European, African and American (North and South continents) girls. Add some cultural clashes, a possible communication barrier and you have a very difficult relationship.
As for shy, timid, strong and so on, those are typical human treats.
*/edit
err... mynippon..? I guess I know where I can go for my ponytail fetishes.... :D:D jezuss...
samuraitora
Oct 30, 2003, 22:01
@eimik- are you still friends with every person that you have ever know?
@nzuedu- thank you for coming to my defense.
@budd- tokidoki otonashii ga ii desu yo.
@Fixxxor- Thanks for the link. I enjoyed the site. OH! and Welcome to the site.
@Mandylion- thank you, that is probably the best info.
@Swifty- I feel your pain, but with a wife and kid, it is hard to get over there...lol
Swifty
Oct 30, 2003, 22:11
I kinda have another question
what do j-girls look at when it comes to western guys?
like i know here the girls are all about looks and cars
or well for my age group at least lol :clap:
but what about over there?
:note:
lineartube
Oct 30, 2003, 23:02
Hmm.. let me check that website again... just for research purposes... :D
Yeah.. that's it. research... :D
Originally posted by Fixxx0r
well from what i've heard they are extremley complicated people and to fully understand thier psyche you need to be japanese a recommended site for such things is www.mynippon.com
Hmm, let's see...
Attracting (the right kind of) men
By Pierre, September 25, 2003
...
2. Do something outrageous
This comes with some degree of risk because you might freak out your date if he is the non-adventurous type. I recently heard about a suggestion to go to the ladies' room during your dinner in the restaurant, take your panties off, neatly fold it, bring it back, and put it on his dish.
WTF, I don't care how hot a chick is, I don't want something that just touched her bunghole on my dinner plate!
Swifty
Oct 31, 2003, 01:50
:D :D :D :D :relief: :relief: :relief: :relief:
Ok If a Girl did that to me
My mouth would probably hit the floor
then i would calmly say "hmm i see you are thinking the same thing I am" and neatly place my boxers on her plate ^_^:clap: :clap: :clap: :clap: :bluush:
obviously you dont eat off that plate lol
you just leave and dont bother eating ^_^
im kidding
that would be kind of funny tho :wave: :wave: :wave: :D :D :D
Originally posted by samuraitora
I haven't had much contact with Japanese women. The little that I have makes me think that they are shy and timid. Am I way off base?
Uh, yeah. Japanese women are as complex as japanese men are as complex as Russian dwarfs are as complex as Argentine left-handers are as complex as Uzbekistanis with big noses.
Et cetera, ad nauseum.
Any impression to the contrary is due to limited exposure and/or too small sample size.
samuraitora
Oct 31, 2003, 02:32
he said bunghole...that is funny all in itself. The concept is funny and obviously we have found one of the non-adventurous types...lol
Get yourself onto a plane and find a means to get a job in Japan, then make the rounds through Tokyo, Kyoto, Kyushu, Okinawa, Sapporo and somewhere near the top of Honshu, like Aomori, and maybe Niigata area, check out all or as many of them places as possible, and you should get a fair sampling of what J-women are like....they are as complex or simple as you make them out to be based upon your viewpoints.... :D
and as soon as you think you figured them J-women out, then throw out your assumptions and start over again, because chances are you're not quite right.... :D
then write your book for the international market and hope for the bestseller... :D
samuraitora
Oct 31, 2003, 04:45
lol...that is a homework assignment for all of the world...lol
get cracking...on that homework, then....
don't have all day waiting to see your results... :D
so far only one female has posted in this thread right?
kirei_na_me
Oct 31, 2003, 06:14
Was two, now three... :p
now we good!
i know ya'll got an opinion, come on with it :)
kirei_na_me
Oct 31, 2003, 06:31
Well, I think I've posted on this topic before. Again, I think you can't just say women of one nationality are better than another. I'm married to a Japanese guy, and I can't say Japanese guys are better than American(or any other) guys.
I don't think anyone should limit themselves to one nationality or race. I think it should be based on the individual. In my experience, Japanese women are, maybe for the most part, quiet on the outside, but as nzueda says, after you really get to know them, they are just as strong/stubborn/hormonal/HUMAN as the rest of us women... ;)
Uncle Frank
Oct 31, 2003, 06:54
I remember when I first met my Japanese girlfriend, I couldn't get her to believe I really loved her because she said I treated her to nice. My Japanese co-worker at the time said treat her mean and crappy. I did what he advised and she seem to fall deeply in love at last ? Seems complex to me !
Frank
kirei_na_me
Oct 31, 2003, 06:59
Originally posted by Frank D. White
I remember when I first met my Japanese girlfriend, I couldn't get her to believe I really loved her because she said I treated her to nice. My Japanese co-worker at the time said treat her mean and crappy. I did what he advised and she seem to fall deeply in love at last ? Seems complex to me !
Frank
Well, that's true to an extent. Usually, to Japanese, they think anyone who is too nice and lovey-dovey and says "I love you" all the time, is someone not to be taken seriously, fake, and might be a "playboy"/"playgirl", as some of them have put it to me. The Japanese can have a different way of conveying love.
Carolgirl00
Oct 31, 2003, 12:27
hmm, that's rather interesting kirei. But then again, even in America women have tendencies to think like that too. If you're really reaally nice, it just seems fishy, you know. But that doesn't mean you treat your women like crap!! Just show your love through your actions + devotion. Words are just words, ppl.
kirei_na_me
Oct 31, 2003, 12:49
I didn't say that was true only for Japanese, and I didn't say there was anything wrong with that. I was just saying that is the way most of them are--as a whole--compared with Americans as a whole. To most Japanese, I believe the being nice and saying "I love you" that is normal to us, is way too much for them. I am not blindly saying this about them. I've lived with a Japanese person for 7 years and have been in personal relationships with many others for just as long. I'm not basing this on no experience. I'm also not saying it's wrong. It's just a difference in culture.
Words can be meaningless--and most of the time are without actions to back them up--but sometimes, words can add a nice touch to an already devoted relationship.
neko_girl22
Oct 31, 2003, 13:13
actions are a very important expression of love I think -
but I don't think I could be in a relationship with a man who couldn't express himself romantically with actions AND words ;)
Carolgirl00
Oct 31, 2003, 13:43
And I wasn't trying to say that you were stating that Kirei. ^_^ I just wanted to say that to all the men here who seem kind of lost. haha. And yes, I understand the point you are making.
Swifty
Oct 31, 2003, 21:44
I totally understand how it is hard to take someone seriously when all they keep saying is I love you and stuff like that
and over affection can just become smothering and ANNOYING!!!!
anyone with me on this one?:confused:
If you are I give you special prescent :valentine
A BEER!!! :gulp: :beer:
samuraitora
Oct 31, 2003, 21:57
I could use a beer after my week...*wink*
People have tendencies and things that fit into the “nature” of what they are. People all over the world have the tendencies of wanting someone they love/have feelings for to truly understand that and feel it too. So they can say things, trying to show you how much they are feeling because communicating through words is the easiest form of communication. Then they bring their feelings to you in a flood of words and emotions. In which, can be a little overwhelming sometimes. That is human nature. It is also human nature to be skeptical and sometimes pessimistic. There is the stigma of the Salesman. When you come with that much emotion, sometimes you can come off as fake or “salesman-like”. Because of the things that some types of salesman have done in the past, we are naturally timid to their advances.
I understand where you’re coming from.
Done Rambling!!!
Heart-broken-ly Yours,
John
Swifty
Oct 31, 2003, 22:25
From Brocken-heart to Brocken-heart
and to all those who have had a heart brocken from time to time
:beer: :beer: :beer: :beer: :beer: :beer: :beer: :beer: :beer: :beer:
CHEERS TO EVERYONE!!!!
Vu Hoang
Oct 31, 2003, 22:57
come in please! http://sayakauchida.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=4
samuraitora
Nov 1, 2003, 01:23
kanpai swifty!!!
OMG!!! she is stunning...your lucky. I think you got all my luck...lol
SPREAD THE LUCK~!!!!!
:love: :love: :love: :love: :clap: :clap: :relief: :rose: :evil: :giggle:
samuraitora
Nov 1, 2003, 02:28
amen buddy...SPREAD THE LUCK!!!!
lol
heh...you aren't even in japan to make your own luck, if it's a J-gal that you're looking for....
git off yer butt, make some money, enroll into an exchange student or JET program and get your posterior over there and stop whining about luck.... :D
You make your own luck...good or bad....didn't you know that? :D
Iron Chef
Nov 1, 2003, 12:39
Taken from the link you posted:
"She is my fiancee,her name YOKO MITSUYA.She is a model
And i'm a proffesional gamer,my name in Japan is Hajime Lân but i'm Vietnamese
I'm abroad,Japan is my country second.
to begin our amour while i playing Street Fighter Zero 3 in videogames club,and i already to makes friends with her.We are alike,she is like videogames
all her pictures below from my website"
Err... not that I don't believe you or anything but if she really IS your fiance' and those pics really ARE taken from YOUR website... then how come there isn't a single one of the two of you together? Surely a woman that comfortable in front of the camera and used to that much exposure would most certainly want to have some pics posted of her and her new hubby don't you think? Nothing personal, just asking for a little credibility is all...
:)
In this corner we have the eternal champion, Iron Chef, with his culinary cuisinart blades ready to handle the challenger....
And in that corner, we have the challenger, AKA Hajime, taking up his digi-camera and downloading from various J-gal sites off the internet....
Reputations are on the line, as we begin this Website Battle... :D
Carolgirl00
Nov 1, 2003, 14:08
lol!! *grabs popcorn to watch*
kirei_na_me
Nov 1, 2003, 20:08
Originally posted by den4
In this corner we have the eternal champion, Iron Chef, with his culinary cuisinart blades ready to handle the challenger....
And in that corner, we have the challenger, AKA Hajime, taking up his digi-camera and downloading from various J-gal sites off the internet....
Reputations are on the line, as we begin this Website Battle... :D
:D x a lot
Wow,
i m new to the forum and this thread is really interesting.
i wasn't really have most exposure to japanese but i have a jap girlfriend currently. As many of u had said, they maybe "otonashi" but i think indepth communication will "reveal" their personality more :p
Originally posted by den4
In this corner we have the eternal champion, Iron Chef, with his culinary cuisinart blades ready to handle the challenger....
And in that corner, we have the challenger, AKA Hajime, taking up his digi-camera and downloading from various J-gal sites off the internet....
Reputations are on the line, as we begin this Website Battle... :D
i have to go with iron chef on this one since the pics are hyperlinked from different websites. the differnt tags on them gives it away...
kirei_na_me
Nov 1, 2003, 21:23
Yeah, I'm definitely placing my bets on IC! :cool:
Tiger-chan
Nov 1, 2003, 22:40
Very interesting thread. Not unusual though. All girls (sorry if I offend any of my fellow females) are 'complicated' in their own way. Like I am a girl who gets along with boys better than I do with girls. This means that rather than being in the group giggling over in a corner, I am helping to annoy every authority figure within the building.
:angel: ---------> :evil: in a matter of seconds
http://www.ironchef.com/img/jeky_cast_01.jpg http://www.ironchef.com/img/jeky_cast_02.jpg "Allez Cuisine!" barks Chairman KagaHyde, as he still has his Halloween costume on from his latest venture in the Cosplay world that is one of the great mysteries of the world...
The gong goes off, and we see Iron Chef come out with his first observations....
So far there is nothing out yet from the challenger's side....
Stay tuned...to see what happens... :D
methinks this thread has gone off onto a different tangent.... :D
"i wasn't really have most exposure to japanese but i have a jap girlfriend currently. As many of u had said, they maybe "otonashi" but i think indepth communication will "reveal" their personality more"
calling her that will definitely reveal it
Fixxx0r
Nov 2, 2003, 22:54
http://overkill.pl/single/master.jpg
Hey guys sorry about the site i didn't think it was that bad, but obviously i offended some people so sorry, and besides i don't take everything on there seriously i just try to read between the lines, alot of it is BS. I havent personally had much experience with japanese women apart from exchang students, we had one in july and it was great. Anyway i have a few j/girls on MSN and for some to me unknow reason they dont seem to talk back to me or are away for a long time without any explination, i have heard this is normal but it really pisses me off when they just won't talk and i was hoping some of you more experienced people could shed some light on it. thanx
P.S. buy that album it is GOD:cool:
Thomas Quinton
Nov 3, 2003, 02:25
I had a Japanese girlfriend while in the military stationed in Japan. And they can be very wild. When they are comfortable with you their dark side appears. Which was a good thing for me. I still dig J-women, i don't see too many where i'm at, but would like to meet another one someday. Shy, but great lovers, probably the best. Met alot of J-women while riding the trains from Camp Fuji to Tokyo. Play dumb, make as if you are lost, and they are eager to help. Then you get their phone number then you're in. Had a wonderful time while there. Sweet women, i think the nicer you are to them, the nicer they are too you. Probably not all, but the one's i've met they liked being treated nice. I hugged this one in public, and she melted like butter in my arms. Love them.
Originally posted by Fixxx0r
http://overkill.pl/single/master.jpg
Hey guys sorry about the site i didn't think it was that bad, but obviously i offended some people so sorry, and besides i don't take everything on there seriously i just try to read between the lines, alot of it is BS. I havent personally had much experience with japanese women apart from exchang students, we had one in july and it was great. Anyway i have a few j/girls on MSN and for some to me unknow reason they dont seem to talk back to me or are away for a long time without any explination, i have heard this is normal but it really pisses me off when they just won't talk and i was hoping some of you more experienced people could shed some light on it. thanx
J-girls probably are too busy with the galmoji to bother with MSN chat lines....learn the galmoji and I'm sure you'll get a bunch of women talking to you..... :D
of course, by the time you learn it, it'll probably be out of style.... :D
aside from that, keep looking through these posts and you should get a fairly good idea about J-girls and their way of thinking...or sometimes the lack of it.... :D
good luck...:clap:
samuraitora
Nov 3, 2003, 21:22
The lack of it is great!!! Like when they rush to the defense of a guy after trashing another one's reputation...I love people!
Ah, Samuraitora, that's just people in general.....or that strange thing called human nature....
Now, when they start dealing with almighty Mother Nature, then we find things that are still beyond the limited knowledge of humankind.....notice I didn't say Mankind...No, I'm not a politically correct person, but I must give credit where credit is due, and both men and women are amazingly stupid in the least convenient times... :D
that's why I love the posters offered at www.despair.com.... :D
Fixxx0r
Nov 4, 2003, 18:07
thanx m8
neko_girl22
Nov 4, 2003, 18:44
Originally posted by den4 that's why I love the posters offered at www.despair.com.... :D
what a funny site! I'm going to forward it to my old office back in NZ :cool:
samuraitora
Nov 4, 2003, 21:17
That is a great site, and I have too found mass stupidity in both sexes. More so in the US, but stupidity does run deep in all human kind.
I just want to say that I fell in love with a Japanese woman and that it was one of those before-and-after things (I hope it makes sense in english).
Japanese women can be wonderful when you get to know them, as women of any nationality can, and when you get to know someone special you won't care af nationality or anything else, just this important person.
And I DO know that it is weird to read something like this written by a man, but is something that I wanted to share.
i understand exactly what you mean kixot and i dont think its weird reading it from a fellow man.
neko_girl22
Nov 6, 2003, 14:03
exactly kixot ;)
samuraitora
Nov 6, 2003, 21:33
hell yeah buddy!!!
a man in touch with himself is ... a good thing.
Angelus
Nov 7, 2003, 03:44
I find that japanese women tend to be beautiful what's your opinion
noyhauser
Nov 7, 2003, 03:53
There are already several threads like this on the all things japenese board... contribute to the discussion there.
Iron Chef
Nov 7, 2003, 05:21
Angelus, since these type of threads seem to be the FOTM (flavor-of-the-month) atm, I am taking the liberty of merging your thread with an existing one that is similar.
samuraitora
Nov 7, 2003, 21:43
Thank you IC. All women have different styles and types. Most people can be stereotyped and that is sad. Sure you can find a paticular body style more appealing, but if you found an amazing French woman would you not fall for her? Even if the body type you leaned towards was that of a Japanese woman. I am living proof of this. I married an African-American lady. That was definately not my type. Don't know that I have ever been happier.
So, to stop rambling and get to the point...Keep an open mind...it will benefit you far more in the end!!!
vBulletin® v3.7.4, Copyright ©2000-2009, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.