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    age of consent in japan, right or wrong?


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    recently i was talking with a japanese girl from kagoshima, living and working in LA. we got to know each other through a pen pal bbs, and we started talking on the phone. she was 26, a fashion designer, and very cool. we had many interesting discussions, then eventually started talking on the phone. over time, the subject of sex came up, and she was suprised to learn that the age of consent in the united states was 18. when i asked what the age was in japan, she said there wasnt one. whoa! wtf, i was almost positive it was 13 or 14, but none at all? what do you guys think about this? it reminds me of a time i picked up a japanese girl in new york city, talked for a bit, exchanged numbers, and when i asked her age, she replied, 16! ouch! needless to say that was the end of our discussion, i explained we could be friends, but anything else was against the law here. she looked dissapointed, like i was lying or something.....man, what a shock, japanese girls generally look younger than their age, so i asumed she was at least 18, my bad give me some feedback ppl, would it be impolite of me to ask a girls age in japan?
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    well... if it's not illegal.. and she acts old enough, looks old enough, smells old enough and tastes old enough... what's the biggie?

    It's not like you're gonna get a 13 year old if you aim for 18... if you do, you've got a really bad eye for age

    I'd probably rather do a 16 year old that had me thinking she was 20, than a 20 year old making me think she's 16 (looks and how she acts both count).

    I go for mental maturity any day.

    (side note: consentual age in Sweden is 16)

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    Consensual age in Mexico is 12... think about THAT one

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    Quote Originally Posted by TwistedMac
    well... if it's not illegal.. and she acts old enough, looks old enough, smells old enough and tastes old enough... what's the biggie?

    It's not like you're gonna get a 13 year old if you aim for 18... if you do, you've got a really bad eye for age

    I'd probably rather do a 16 year old that had me thinking she was 20, than a 20 year old making me think she's 16 (looks and how she acts both count).

    I go for mental maturity any day.

    (side note: consentual age in Sweden is 16)
    im not saying i wouldnt do a 16 year old, im saying i wouldnt do it in america
    of course there are all kinds of things to consider, but the law is the law man.....

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    Quote Originally Posted by SkippyDaStudent85
    Consensual age in Mexico is 12... think about THAT one
    that's almost worse than no age at all.. that means they actively support sex with 12 year olds O_o

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    Quote Originally Posted by SkippyDaStudent85
    Consensual age in Mexico is 12... think about THAT one
    arrrggggg..........whew, thats, well, i didnt have to thinkabout it very long, thats just plain wrong

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    Yeah...sadly, thats not the worst of it...

    I read somewhere that the youngest mother reported was a 5 year old with a developmental hormone disorder. According to the article, she had her first period when she was 3.

    The thing that bugs me the most is the kind of man the father would have to be to do something like that... people like that sicken me

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    yea, i think the reason its not such a big deal in japan is because of the educational system. girls are generally more mature and have a better understanding of sexual relations than american girls, so japanese adults place a certain level of trust in the minor to make good decisions. sadly, like you said, the case with mexico is just sickening, i had no idea, makes me very sad for them....

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    Quote Originally Posted by babar-san
    yea, i think the reason its not such a big deal in japan is because of the educational system. girls are generally more mature and have a better understanding of sexual relations than american girls, so japanese adults place a certain level of trust in the minor to make good decisions. sadly, like you said, the case with mexico is just sickening, i had no idea, makes me very sad for them....
    Oh heavens no.
    You couldn't be further from the truth. Sex ed and teens/young peoples views on sex here are whacky.
    Girls as young as 14 selling themselves for money to buy fashion accesories (I don't care what the Euros here say, thats WRONG).
    Teenagers proudly having multiple 'sex friends'.
    Girls threatening to dump guys because the guys want to wear a condom. However the girl thinks that using a condom makes her a **** (my friend, somewhat of a playboy said this has happened a few times too him).
    Teen girls that think hostessing/working in porn is a valid career move.
    Teen girls that are incredibly easy to bed compared to western girls (Not that I've done that mind you ).
    Girls that seem to think being groped on the train is a fact of life.
    School girls that talk candidly about having sexual relations with teachers.
    Stories of teen or young 20's girls that put out on the first date. In less than an hour.


    Sure this isn't representative of EVERY girl but to say that Japanese girls are more mature and knowledgeable about sex than western girls is a fallacy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by babar-san
    recently i was talking with a japanese girl from kagoshima, living and working in LA. we got to know each other through a pen pal bbs, and we started talking on the phone. she was 26, a fashion designer, and very cool. we had many interesting discussions, then eventually started talking on the phone. over time, the subject of sex came up, and she was suprised to learn that the age of consent in the united states was 18. when i asked what the age was in japan, she said there wasnt one. whoa! wtf, i was almost positive it was 13 or 14, but none at all? what do you guys think about this? it reminds me of a time i picked up a japanese girl in new york city, talked for a bit, exchanged numbers, and when i asked her age, she replied, 16! ouch! needless to say that was the end of our discussion, i explained we could be friends, but anything else was against the law here. she looked dissapointed, like i was lying or something.....man, what a shock, japanese girls generally look younger than their age, so i asumed she was at least 18, my bad give me some feedback ppl, would it be impolite of me to ask a girls age in japan?

    Sh*t happens...
    Feel sorry for you - you could've waited until she turns 18...
    But usually they look much younger than they are.

    Age of consent is 13 in Japan, maybe she didn't know. Careful when abroad, one can still get charged for having sex with minors when returning to his home country. Several countries have this law, the US included.
    And don't ask a woman/girl about her age, the Japanese girls/women DO NOT like that. Seems to be a world-wide unwritten-law through all cultures...

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    Japan only recently cracked down on this. Just after the turn of the century there were a couple of big laws in Japan that would be views as relatively shocking.

    1: Birth Control Pill made legal (no joke!)
    2: Child Pornography/Age of Consent thing

    I don't know what the actual age is, but after some digging, 13 seems to be the magical number. The big deal about the law was that they made it applicable to Japanese anywhere in the world. Basically, it was to stop all these old guys going and banging 12 year old Thai prostitutes and bringing back diseases. In short, a Japanese CAN be arrested for having sex with a minor in a foreign country.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FirstHousePooka
    Girls as young as 14 selling themselves for money to buy fashion accesories (I don't care what the Euros here say, thats WRONG).
    HEY!
    euros may be free-spirited and Sweden in particular (ever heard of Swedish sin? yeah.. that's us) but that doesn't make us all friggin pedophiles!
    A 14 year old selling herself for fashion accessories is wrong any way you look at it and from any continent you look at it.

    the rest is just a bit slutty, no big deal in my book (except for that "I don't want no condom cuz it makes me slutty" thing... that is just plain freaky... If any girl told me that, I'd up and leave.(think about it.. it means she's most probably had unprotected sex lots of times before with random encounters and now she wants it from you.. yeah.. I don't step in bear-traps that I have already seen for the same reason. It's dangerous.))

    sorta odd when in western countries it'll usually be the chick insisting on rubber O_o

    In Sweden we don't really have that whole dating culture as such.. (it happens you take your girl out ofcourse, but it's different..)
    Usually you'll meet your girl at a party or some other place where you're drunk out of your skull and she is too and your relationship often starts off with some sex as soon as the club/whatever closes...
    That's not "the way it is" but it's pretty common... so sex on "first date within an hour" is the thing that sounds the least strange to me there...

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    Quote Originally Posted by TwistedMac
    HEY!
    euros may be free-spirited and Sweden in particular (ever heard of Swedish sin? yeah.. that's us) but that doesn't make us all friggin pedophiles!
    A 14 year old selling herself for fashion accessories is wrong any way you look at it and from any continent you look at it.
    Lol hey sorry man!

    I meant I've seen a few guys here, mainly from Europe, that have tried to jusitfy enjo kosai as normal and ok, when indeed its nothing more than a dirty ugly stain on japanese society.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rakuten
    Age of consent is 13 in Japan, maybe she didn't know.
    Age of consent is complicated in Japan. For practical purposes it's at least 16 in most places in most circumstances.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PaulTB
    Age of consent is complicated in Japan. For practical purposes it's at least 16 in most places in most circumstances.
    Hehe best explanation one can give. Its so whacky here in terms of AOC. Ic ant figure it out.

    This site MAY help but I have been told its out of date http://www.ageofconsent.com/japan.htm

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    meh, stay with girls around your own age and you'll be fine..
    It doesn't have to be complicated if you don't want it to ;)

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    Quote Originally Posted by FirstHousePooka
    Oh heavens no.
    You couldn't be further from the truth. Sex ed and teens/young peoples views on sex here are whacky.
    Girls as young as 14 selling themselves for money to buy fashion accesories (I don't care what the Euros here say, thats WRONG).
    Teenagers proudly having multiple 'sex friends'.
    Girls threatening to dump guys because the guys want to wear a condom. However the girl thinks that using a condom makes her a **** (my friend, somewhat of a playboy said this has happened a few times too him).
    Teen girls that think hostessing/working in porn is a valid career move.
    Teen girls that are incredibly easy to bed compared to western girls (Not that I've done that mind you ).
    Girls that seem to think being groped on the train is a fact of life.
    School girls that talk candidly about having sexual relations with teachers.
    Stories of teen or young 20's girls that put out on the first date. In less than an hour.


    Sure this isn't representative of EVERY girl but to say that Japanese girls are more mature and knowledgeable about sex than western girls is a fallacy.

    well, i was speaking of the intitution of the age of consent, not really the current trends in japanese sexuality. this has really only been a problem (prostitution) for about the last decade in japan among young girls. i am very aware of this, but the institution of the age of consent was put into place much longer ago than the current trend towards prostitution with young girls has been prevalent, but i see your point for sure...young modern japanese females are by and large becoming more and more promiscuous, a sad trend for sure...

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    *points to sig* Thats why I stick with Japanese ladies over the age of 18

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    Quote Originally Posted by SkippyDaStudent85
    *points to sig* Thats why I stick with Japanese ladies over the age of 18
    Hehehe what sig?

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    maybe he's pointing upwards to his first post?.. he never said what direction he was pointing ;)

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    Quote Originally Posted by FirstHousePooka
    Hehehe what sig?
    Look at my first post on this page... I think the sig only shows on the first post per page

    (FYI: This part of my sig...)

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    Quote Originally Posted by SkippyDaStudent85
    Look at my first post on this page... I think the sig only shows on the first post per page

    (FYI: This part of my sig...)
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    Yep yep... very beautiful!

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    I like Ai Nakayama better, because her clothes are smaller.


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