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    Why don't Japanese men want sex?


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    seriously.

    I'm not going to do a TLDR with supporting facts. but hey we ALL know it's out there.

    I know part of it is to do with the whole "saving face" bullsh1te existent in Japanese culture.

    but i mean really.

    How is it we have a Japanese friend from out of town staying with peoples,

    32 (just turned) hot, cute, nice face, lovely ****, with a full hands worth of epicly pert boobage,
    yet a total Virgin because Japanese guys just don't hit on her,
    because Japanese guys just don't hit on anyone.

    and you wonder why us "outlander Barbarians" are taking all of your women.
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    There are people that are asexual, but then again, I think Japanese men's lack of sex drive comes from cultural conditioning. That's kinda like abstinence in a sense. I'm not that familiar with the culture so I can't say for sure, but I can say this is why I like Japanese girls (Well one of them).
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    Maybe what you see in her is not what average Japanese guys see in her. The concept of beauty changes from culture to culture.
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    One attractive girl is still a virgin at 32....ergo Japanese men don't like sex.

    Seeing this thread has pushed me over the edge on the decision about a couple of additions to the Ignore List.
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    One attractive girl is still a virgin at 32....ergo Japanese men don't like sex.
    It all depends on who judged her as attractive. A girl whom SevenStartsHK2N considers attractive might not look attractive to average Japanese guys. I assume she is still unmarried. The fact that she is still single at the age of 32 might be telling us that she is not that attractive to Japanese eyes.

    Also it is not clear if it was her intention to stay virgin or not. If she was that hot, I am sure there must have been plenty of guys trying to sleep with her when she was in school, say high school. Did she avoid chances to get intimate with her boyfriends? We don't know.
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    Her trouble seems to stem from the fact that she can't drink. At all.
    If she takes as much as three sips of beer she gets drunk.

    This means that she does not go out to the usual alcohol induced fun places people (the young esp) normally go to meet the opposite sex.

    Also she is quite shy. And yes she is pretty, Japan, Europe, the Moon, Athletic body, long legs, perky boobs that seem to defy gravity (certainly big for asian) and a cue face.

    Of course this is not to say that there is a 32 year old hot virgin, there must be something wrong with the blokes of that country.

    I used it as an example, of what is known to be a fact in Japan.

    A horribly low birth rate. With for some reason an ever growing section of young males who have no interest in real sex with real women.

    PS. Must say it's a bit boring the way some people here like mike seem to be intent on pretending that Japan is some kind of utopia,
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    Her trouble seems to stem from the fact that she can't drink. At all.
    I used it as an example, of what is known to be a fact in Japan.

    A horribly low birth rate. With for some reason an ever growing section of young males who have no interest in real sex with real women.
    I think it is not just sex. Supposedly, the new generation of men, whom the Japanese media call 草食系, are not eager to pursue what older Japanese men always wanted to have in the past like money, status, fame, and so on.

    Having a low birth rate, in my opinion, is separate from low sex drive. It must be more to do with whether the country can offer the environment in which young people can afford to raise their children.

    Also, people who leave the country often are those who have felt uncomfortable living in that country. So, Japanese women whom you meet outside of Japan might have some biased views or represent something different from the norms of the country.
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    I read an article about something along these lines that talked about how the Japanese in general seem to have a lower sex drive than many other parts of the world. The person writing the article seemed to think it mostly had to do with stress and long hours at work.
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    Mike cash stop being a d bag! You don't have to announce your discontent to the whole world.
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    Her trouble seems to stem from the fact that she can't drink. At all.
    If she takes as much as three sips of beer she gets drunk.

    This means that she does not go out to the usual alcohol induced fun places people (the young esp) normally go to meet the opposite sex.
    Uhhh, right. This might come as a shock, but men and women in Japan actually meet in other places than bars. Its shocking. I know.


    Also she is quite shy. And yes she is pretty, Japan, Europe, the Moon, Athletic body, long legs, perky boobs that seem to defy gravity (certainly big for asian) and a cue face.
    Frankly, this sounds more like a not so thinly veiled (and creepy) way of saying you really want to get with her.

    Wait, don't like how I arbitrarily assigned motives that may or may not be there? That's precisely what you're doing to here to her situation.

    However no matter how I look at it, its creepy.




    Of course this is not to say that there is a 32 year old hot virgin, there must be something wrong with the blokes of that country.
    Or, just maybe, she isn't interested? Is there something wrong with that?



    A horribly low birth rate. With for some reason an ever growing section of young males who have no interest in real sex with real women.
    So Italy and the Czech Republic with a fertility rates of 1.28 and 1.27 (respectively), must be even less interested in sex than the Japanese (with a fertility rate of 1.38)?

    I'm sure the women of those countries will be relieved to hear that.




    PS. Must say it's a bit boring the way some people here like mike seem to be intent on pretending that Japan is some kind of utopia,
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    Its certainly more entertaining than when individuals post poorly thought out and frankly creepy hypothesis.
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    Damn! You ripped this guy a new one lol. But you make many excellent points. I must applaud your perceptions. You are quite astute it seems. Reputation to you sir
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    But you initially bought into his idiotic premise, hook, line, and sinker.....
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    I didn't really read into it. Truly I was not very intrigued by what he said, but the way the human mind works intrigues me a lot. Plus the cultural aspect of Japanese men not wanting sex is an interesting thought. It's a shame it had to be brought up in such a distasteful manner. But as I said, I didn't care much for how insipidly he spoke.
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    That the whole premise of men anywhere not wanting sex is moronic still eludes you?

    The girl voted Homecoming Queen at my high school, a drop-dead gorgeous girl, stayed at home on prom night because she didn't have a date. From this I conclude that American males aren't interested in attractive females.

    Makes as much sense as the idiotic hogwash you initially agreed with....and still seem to accept as a fact, merely a fact presented with a lack of decorum.
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    Mike Cash:

    It must make you feel really good to belittle others. Or else you have a thin skin and are offended by everything.

    Do you ever have anything friendly or positive to say here?
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    Here for your semi-annual visit, I see.

    Oddly enough, I keep waiting for you to have anything pertinent, informed, or intelligent to add to the site. Interesting how we hold each other in low regard, don't you think?
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    No, it's not interesting. The OP here didn't try to pick a fight with you, and certainly didn't deserve to be described as idiotic. But that seems to be your standard operating procedure.

    It's not a question of holding you in low regard. It's just that every time I see your name affixed to a post, I wince even before reading it.

    No internet forum is complete without its resident bully, I guess.
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    I have a low tolerance for stupidity, trollish posts, and posts which present Japan or the Japanese as being monolithic stereotypes....all of which are hallmarks of the OP.

    If you think being called a bully by someone who won't attach his name to his opinions is going to cause me remorse or a change of ways then you're going to be disappointed. I've never gauged my words by what I thought would be popular or meet with the tender sensibilities of people such as yourself and I have no intention of starting now.

    I'll stack my knowledgeable, informed, friendly, and helpful posts up against yours any day of the week. If, as you slanderously claim, all my contributions were of a bullying nature I would have been banned from JREF years ago.
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    People have a natural tendency to over-weight personal experience and to generalize from anecdotes. It may not be valid logic, but that's how we're wired. It doesn't make us all idiots.

    I guess my view of you has been affected the same way. You jumped on one of my first posts here, called me an idiot or somesuch. Maybe I'm over-weighting that experience, but I haven't seen much in your posts since then to change my own first impression that you try to bully people you disagree with.
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    Link to where I called you an idiot.
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    The forum has been reorganized since then, and that sub-forum no longer exists.

    I'm surprised you'd deny it, since only a few posts back in this thread you say that I never post anything "pertinent, informed, or intelligent" here.
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    How convenient for you; it facilitates your lie about me calling you an idiot.

    What this boils down to is you said something stupid, had the stupidity of it pointed out, and out of a personal grudge choose to slander me by mischaracterizing my posts and telling a lie about my having called you an idiot.

    That's the problem with the touchy-feely everybody-gets-a-trophy generation: instead of getting mad at yourself and resolving not to say something stupid the next time they get their feelings hurt and keep right on saying stupid stuff.
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    You don't even see the contradictions in your own post there, do you? lmao
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    Nice comeback. Right up there with "I know you are but what am I?"

    I don't understand what you're trying to accomplish here, Roland. It comes as news to no one that I am sometimes brusque and abrasive in my posts. I don't deny it. When I am brusque or abrasive it is intentional. I damned well mean each and every post I make to have the tone it does.

    So you're not telling me or anyone else anything we don't already know, and I'm not going to change to suit you or anyone else. You just want to vent your personal grudge for and dislike of me. Fine, go ahead. But trying to do it by claiming I'm a bully in allmy posts and telling a conveniently insubstantiable bald-faced lie about my having called you an idiot is beneath contempt.
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    No, it's not interesting. The OP here didn't try to pick a fight with you, and certainly didn't deserve to be described as idiotic. But that seems to be your standard operating procedure.

    It's not a question of holding you in low regard. It's just that every time I see your name affixed to a post, I wince even before reading it.

    No internet forum is complete without its resident bully, I guess.
    Frankly, I think you really need to take a hard look at who you are defending here. The OP's arguments were horribly premised, based on some quasi-racist stereotypes (sexually impotent Japanese?) and to a certain extent sexist, if not degrading to his alleged "friend."

    I think Mike Cash does go over the line from time to time and he's been warned about it by the mods in an instance or two. That shouldn't be a surprise. However in this case the person you are defending said some exceptionally egregious things, far in excess of the worst comments Mike has ever made. Maybe its a bit of frontier justice, but the hostile response he received (particularly after his even more ridiculous rebuttals) were well earned. I would have posted something to this effect if I had seen it earlier.

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