Any of you fit this description? If so, how soon was it to you that you found out that life in Japan might not be up to par to what you may have imagined. I think one of the first things that I encountered was that I lost being in control of my destiny here. That happened on my 3 rd day here in Japan. What I mean by that is that my Japanese wife took total control of everything, which was wrong as years later I found out. Life is short.